tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post8625785077863138395..comments2023-06-08T09:34:39.076-04:00Comments on The Magdalene Sisters: The Opposite Sex and the CityAgatha Magdalenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05224221846886335490noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post-31631797841281051022010-01-19T14:39:40.838-05:002010-01-19T14:39:40.838-05:00Wow, I feel your pain . . . there's nothing wo...Wow, I feel your pain . . . there's nothing worse than the waiting, but sometimes there's naught else to do! Also, great thoughts from all the commenters, very thought-provoking!Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06221464682706193091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post-69830973509897104962010-01-14T09:48:20.365-05:002010-01-14T09:48:20.365-05:00Don't quit Facebook over this--that would be t...Don't quit Facebook over this--that would be to retreat, and if you really want to meet a guy, don't go into hiding. On the other hand, don't be afraid to "unfriend" people.<br /><br />The problem you describe is two-fold: (good) men are often hesitant to initiate (with something so direct as a call) and (good) women often think they must remain 100% passive and wait for the guy to do everything. <br /><br />If you're interested in a guy, drop some hints, open up some of the channels of communication yourself. There's nothing wrong with that. There are a lot of good reasons (as well as bad ones) why a guy might be slow to initiate or may never act, otherwise. Give him room to act, but take an active approach yourself. If a relationship is ever to mature, communication has to be two-way. Why then do so many people think it's one-way at the beginning?<br /><br />There are so many reasons a guy might not call at first. Don't try to guess them. Be open and honest and let come what will.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15568473711813544808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post-32433636129402311032010-01-13T19:37:38.446-05:002010-01-13T19:37:38.446-05:00Maybe I'm totally out of touch here, but I don...Maybe I'm totally out of touch here, but I don't think facebook is all that bad. Wouldn't it be a good way to break the ice before an actual date? I think you can also screen a person and decide if you are really interested in them...just some thoughts...<br /><br />Please don't delete your account...I'd miss you on there! :)Grace in my Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09742364804125879803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post-63722829460262808672010-01-13T19:12:31.357-05:002010-01-13T19:12:31.357-05:00Thanks for your comments, everyone!
Aaron, I thi...Thanks for your comments, everyone! <br /><br />Aaron, I think you are right about giving guys encouragement. I just think it's hard for the woman to know when she is crossing the line from encouragement to trying too hard. Perhaps I throw my hands up too prematurely and assume he's not pursuing...but I do think I give a nice, bright green light without being over-the-top!Julianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04666783950828939561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post-6589432258009899932010-01-13T17:00:01.336-05:002010-01-13T17:00:01.336-05:00H love-
Don't get off facebook. Make your pro...H love-<br />Don't get off facebook. Make your profile private so they can't find you.<br />I totally get what you're saying. Oh, facebook. Oh, men.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18385125152722680152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post-81823153973125835882010-01-13T15:58:28.916-05:002010-01-13T15:58:28.916-05:00Let's be honest: men don't like sticking t...Let's be honest: men don't like sticking their necks out. Who does? But for the right woman, they'll do it. Still, a little encouragement never hurts.<br /><br />I like email. I love email. It's my preferred method of communication for all sorts of things. It's fast, convenient, and yet still allows you to compose a well-organized message, in a way that text and chat do not. And unlike the phone, you're never interrupting. <br /><br />So a couple of years ago I sent a little email to a gal asking her on a coffee date. She wrote back saying that sounded great - why don't I give her a call and we could set a time? I hadn't intended to use the email as a method of hiding, but when I had to actually dial those digits, the quivering hand and warble in my voice made me realize what a cover it was. In the end, the date happened, and even went well, though there were no great fireworks. The gal in question did not go on to become my fiancee - though she <i>will</i> be one of our bridesmaids - but I'm inclined to regard the matter a success.<br /><br />Moral of the story: lots of men need a little prodding. Just a little, applied with grace, can go a long way.Aaron Lindermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15992073027586818751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post-69114921703542462362010-01-13T15:45:46.738-05:002010-01-13T15:45:46.738-05:00FACEBOOK friends when a guy asking for your number...FACEBOOK friends when a guy asking for your number is LOSER material. <br /><br />Be strong. <br /><br />If they friend you after you start to hang out, then maybe its alright.fabuloushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05356357301637206541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post-12125489596889997742010-01-13T14:12:29.105-05:002010-01-13T14:12:29.105-05:00yep, It's the decent thing to do. really, the...yep, It's the decent thing to do. really, the thing to do that's most important: picking up that phone and calling you -- voice to voice, ear to ear. and then asking you out . . . for coffee. that's a good way to start, b/c it's not too long and it's not too expensive. either party can bolt after a cup of coffee without feeling like they've wasted their time or money. don't guys know this kind of social etiquette ?Gardeniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01425036479074701700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post-80002351662805545012010-01-13T13:15:44.175-05:002010-01-13T13:15:44.175-05:00You make some interesting points. Facebook wasn&#...You make some interesting points. Facebook wasn't around during my dating days, but A.OL instant messenger was. I guess adding pictures into the mix definitely makes it even more tricky. Honestly, I don't know what I'd do...however, I don't think a little facebooking doesn't hurt. If you see lots of pictures of the guy drunk, you probably know he isn't for you!Grace in my Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09742364804125879803noreply@blogger.com