tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post7761287847704149541..comments2023-06-08T09:34:39.076-04:00Comments on The Magdalene Sisters: What Do You Want?Agatha Magdalenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05224221846886335490noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post-7989279074080503212010-01-04T13:19:45.683-05:002010-01-04T13:19:45.683-05:00Wow, these are some great questions & reflecti...Wow, these are some great questions & reflections! <br /><br />I'm thankful to be able to read them:) THank you!fabuloushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05356357301637206541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post-39724585210941980842009-12-19T21:51:33.579-05:002009-12-19T21:51:33.579-05:00I have to second Aaron on this one. I never did ma...I have to second Aaron on this one. I never did make a list, but I did (and do) keep a prayer journal and in that journal I reflected upon the kinds of qualities I wanted to find in men...if only through the men I dated that did not have those qualities. And Peter fit them all. I was not limiting God. I was trusting Him. But I was also being honest with Him. And when I read your post and saw you were worried about 'limiting' God and yourself by such a list, you are not. You are not going to say 'I want a man who is rich, tall, dark, and handsome. And a prince please, thank you!' But put down on paper qualities you find attractive, gifts you wish you had or could be better at - these are noble things to look for, and to ask God for.<br /><br />Whether God had ordained just one man or not for you. I agree that love is a choice. I agree that you can be compatible with many different men. I also DO NOT believe necessarily in 'soul mates.' But I do believe that God does intend for couples to be together. I believe He does have a hand in it. I mean, talk about being the Supreme matchmaker! HA! I think that God does intend one particular man for you. I know that I dated plenty of men who on paper were perfect for me in every way...but they just were not the one man for me. Then I found Peter. And it's Peter that I chose to love. No one else. So there is a particularity in that choice. <br /><br />And when we met, I did not even think on paper that he fit the criteria...I mean, I wanted to marry someone Catholic, and he was not. But I trusted God's Providence that if He wanted us together, He would help us no matter religion Peter chose - which, as you now know, is the Catholic faith. <br /><br />I think that's key, Julian. Trust in God. I know you know that, because you always remind me of it too. So writing a list in the form of a prayer being truly honest with God about who you are and the kind of man who will help you become perfected in love. Trust me, if God's grace is not limited to the sacraments, it surely won't be limited to a list. And He loves you, so He wants to know. He's listening.Edith Magdalenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17000057975723736463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1951481887669777591.post-9879863316124945402009-12-19T20:17:07.873-05:002009-12-19T20:17:07.873-05:00I think the point of a list is not so much to say,...I think the point of a list is not so much to say, "Lord, here's what I'd like," but rather, it's an occasion to discern one's own strengths and weaknesses, gifts and needs.<br /><br />Think of it like making a list before buying a house. If one has a large family, one needs X bedrooms, or at least room for Y beds. This may seem obvious, but at some point one might stumble upon just the cutest little place? "Oh, we could make it work. Somehow. Couldn't we, honey?" If one knows ahead of time one needs a house with X bedrooms, one won't waste time trying to justify something smaller.<br /><br />That may sound obvious, but we make the same kind of mistake in relationships. The point of the list - at least as I understand it - is not to enumerate one's preferences, but to clarify those things which one cannot compromise. It should include everything which is essential and nothing which is not. Still, definitely something worth taking before the Lord.Aaron Lindermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15992073027586818751noreply@blogger.com